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Dr. Sue Poppa T Positive Entertainment

Dr. Sue: Pop ‘n Dr. Sue Show Positive Entertainment

Welcome to the Pop ‘n Dr. Sue Show! 

Pop is Poppa Tee, Producer/Owner of JCT TV and Multimedia www.jctmagazine.com   I am Dr. Sue (Susan Horowitz, PhD) We are co-hosting the “Pop ‘n Dr. Sue Show” Our mission is to offer Positive Entertainment, and Empowering Advice and Health Tips to Help you Create the Life You Want! We are both in voluntary self-quarantined to support the stay home – stay safe policy. That’s why we are doing a radio call in show. Here are a few key points:

  1. Focus on what you can give and believe in your own resources and talents.  
  2. Your resources can be monetary – you can donate to charity
  3. Your resources can be your skills, talents, or connection to others
  4. When you give to others, you not only help them, you empower yourself
  5. Creativity is a tremendous resource! 
  6. You can share your own creativity
  7. You can also support the creativity of others
  8. Connect to others – even if you need to keep social distance. 
  9. Make a phone call to friends, family or neighbors.
  10. If you cannot call, you can Email, text, or use a phone app.
  11. You can send photos or short videos or links to something they will enjoy.
  12. We all need social connection – in person or any other way!

Please let us know how you’re doing! Visit: Facebook: New York Strong  We’ll be back with more shows, and more tips! Here are two videos: JCT Pop ‘n Dr. Sue Show and Dr. Sue YouTube Channel  Here’s the Pop n Dr. Sue Show! Here’s Dr. Sue YouTube Channel: www.youtube.com/drsuecomedian  with my free, uplifting original song: “We’re In This Together”

Dr. Sue Ten Commandments

Dr. Sue Happy Passover, Easter & Spring Positive Entertainment

Dr. Sue Ten Commandments
Dr. Sue Ten Commandments

Happy Passover, Easter, Spring… and whatever you celebrate!

I hope this photograph makes you think of all we have in common:

We all need something to believe in.

We all need just laws that serve the greater good.

We all need sunshine  (above the 10 commandments in the photo)

We all need generosity – open arms and open heart.

We all need to believe in Spring – symbolized by the green color of my dress and the flowers in my shawl.

We all need to feel part of a community.

When we cannot be physically close, when it’s not wise to physically touch, we can still feel close in many ways.

We can talk on the phone, we can connect on social media, we can send emails, and texts.

We can contact someone who would appreciate our reaching out.

We can give, and we can help… we can lift our own spirits – and the spirits of others.

We can forgive, we can give a kind word, a sincere compliment, and tangible gifts of money, food and supplies.

We can appreciate those who give so much more!

And no matter what you believe – we believe in you!

In case you need the gift of song and laughter, here’s my song:

Dr. Sue sings her original song “Matzoh Ball Romance”   

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Susan (“Dr. Sue”) Horowitz, Ph.D.

Book: “Queens of Comedy”
(Lucille Ball, Carol Burnett, Joan Rivers, Phyllis Diller, and more!)
smashwords.com/books/view/219367

Musical: “SssWitch” www.ssswitch.net

Dr. Sue YouTube Channel
youtube.com/user/drsuecomedian/videos

Dr. Sue Daffodils Positive Entertainment

Dr. Sue Nature & Poetry Positive Entertainment

Hello. This is Dr. Sue (Susan Horowitz, Ph.D,) I live in Manhattan, New York, the epicenter of our current pandemic. I say “current” because, this too shall pass – especially if we take care of our health – physical and mental. It’s March, 2020, early spring – one of my favorite times of year. I’ve been spending lots of time in my apartment. I wanted fresh air and a way to connect to the beauty of nature. Social distancing is important, so I decided to go for a solo walk in a local park – no mass transportation, and no crowds. After a short walk in the park, I came across these beautiful fields of daffodils. (Please scroll down for video). These golden-trumpeted flowers reminded me of the ending lines from one of my favorite poems: “I Wandered Lonely As a Cloud” by William Wordsworth, written in the early 19th century. The last line of the poem is: “And then my heart with pleasure fills and dances with the daffodils.” Wordsworth writes about how, when he is feeling depressed,  (“in vacant or in pensive mood”),  he remembers the daffodils moving in the wind. The memory lifts his spirits and he feels pleasure as he imagines “his heart…dancing with the daffodils.” Many of us are feeling isolated and lonely and bored as we self-isolate to protect our health, and the health of our loved ones and community. This is the wise and generous thing to do. It’s easy to become depressed as the public media and worried friends share frightening statistics and stories – – and interpretations that can lead to personal despair. What can we do? We can take care of our physical health, and by now, we know what to do (social distance, hygiene, etc.) We can take care of our mental and spiritual health. We can manage and limit our exposure to negativity. We can focus on opportunities for growth and learning, on healthy routines, on hobbies, and on beauty. We can enjoy the beauty of nature – either in reality (like my solo walk), in memory (like William Wordsworth’s poem), or virtually (in videos, photographs, and text). I hope you enjoy this video of me and my daffodils! Dr. Sue Shares Uplifting Poem About Daffodils

Susan (“Dr. Sue”) Horowitz, Ph.D.

Book: “Queens of Comedy” (Lucille Ball, Carol Burnett, Joan Rivers, Phyllis Diller, and more!) www.smashwords.com/books/view/219367 Musical: “SssWitch”: www.ssswitch.net  www.YouTube.com/drsuecomedian https://www.youtube.com/feed/my_videos
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Dr. Sue Media Personality Positive Entertainment

Sue Pink Sweater 2X2Dr. Sue shares Creative Living Tips on WBAB-WBLI Radio! Life & Love Tips plus Entertaining Banter & Songs ‘How do you deal with stress? Does your own life and relationship seem lacking? Are you comparing your life with glamorous images in the media? Dr. Sue encourages you to celebrate your life!   WBAB Logo WBLI Logo     “Plugged Into Long Island” with host Donna Donna   Dr. Sue: Media Personality Radio/TV! Recording of entire show available on request. RickCamera2Sue “Dr. Sue” Horowitz (Vocalist)  & Rick Bogart (Clarinet/Musical Director)  Perform Jazz Standards, Romantic  Songs & Clever Parodies Broadway Thai Restaurant  241 West 51st Street (btwn Broadway-8th Ave) NYC Saturday/Sunday Nights  (212) 226-4565, No Cover. Thai &  American Food & Drinks are delicious (and reasonable) Creative Living: Celebrate Your Life!  Comparing yourself to others who seem more fortunate (and we don’t usually know the inside story) creates unhappiness.  Change what you can (be bold), and if you cannot,  appreciate what you have! Live Your Dream!: I love to sing, and the chance to sing with the world renowned Rick Bogart Jazz Trio is a dream.  If you have a dream, go for it!  If a door doesn’t open, try a window (of opportunity)! Act As If: My radio host Donna Donna shared with me that when she started on the air, she wasn’t very good, so she imagined what a host whom she admired would do.  She acted “as if” she had his confidence, and as she got better, she did!  Nobody is born a successful media host, performer, athlete, author – or whatever you imagine yourself to be.  Keep improving your skills, get in the game, and act “as if”! (Editor/Photographer: Jay Berman; Media Agent: Nancy M. Melito)

Susan (“Dr. Sue”) Horowitz, Ph.D.

Book: “Queens of Comedy” (Lucille Ball, Carol Burnett, Joan Rivers, Phyllis Diller, and more!) www.smashwords.com/books/view/219367 Musical: “SssWitch”: www.ssswitch.net  www.YouTube.com/drsuecomedian https://www.youtube.com/feed/my_videos    
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Dr. Sue Media JCT Valentine’s Day Positive Entertainment

JCT Awards Dr. Sue "Entertainer of the Year"

JCT Awards Dr. Sue “Entertainer of the Year”

Dr. Sue shares Love Tips on JCT Radio/TV Show! What makes a great, creative gift (with or without a high price tag)? How can you feel loved and appreciated? What can you do if you don’t get the gift you’ve been hoping for? Infatuation is exciting – like fireworks – but what can you do if it fades? How can you give little valentines to keep that love alive – all year long? Enjoy my Show on JCT Media with Poppa T “The Motivator” Creative Living: Celebrate Valentine’s Day as Love & Friendship Day!  Expand your idea of love beyond erotic romance or a relationship with a significant other.   Celebrate your friends, family, even your pets and plants! Appreciate What’s There: People express love and friendship in different ways. Sometimes it’s the gift or card that’s great – sometimes it’s something else they do – or don’t do.  Value the gift – whatever the form. (Editor/Photographer Jay Berman, Videography: JCT Multimedia)

Susan (“Dr. Sue”) Horowitz, Ph.D.

Book: “Queens of Comedy” (Lucille Ball, Carol Burnett, Joan Rivers, Phyllis Diller, and more!) www.smashwords.com/books/view/219367 Musical: “SssWitch”: www.ssswitch.net  www.YouTube.com/drsuecomedian https://www.youtube.com/feed/my_videos  
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Dr. Sue Travel Mini-Cation Positive Entertainment

Brunch with Sue

Brunch with Sue

Between a vacation and stay-cation is a mini-cation – a short vacation with a minimum of packing and mileage. It’s a chance to get away from computers, cleaning, cooking, kids or whatever constitutes your daily scene and upgrade your routine. Instead of hosting a dinner and dealing with sleepover arrangements, mini-cations offer a low-stress, high-fun way to connect with out-of-town friends and family. Many hotels offer dining with a great weekend brunch (often an all-you-can-eat buffet) for hotel guests and locals. A buffet brunch (like the one at the Nassau Marriott) is an easy way to celebrate special occasions – without a huge price tag or the need to negotiate special diets and different sized appetites. Tables can usually be re-arranged for singles, couples, and large groups . Away from urban centers, there is ample parking for overnight and dining guests – a big plus for car-owners and buses.
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Pool

Another plus is swimming – many hotels feature pools (outdoor and/or indoor). If you didn’t drop off the kids, you can always drop them in the pool. Mer-folks – like Ariel (the little mermaid) and me – love an all-season dip. We can swim, dry off, and dine in style without going out into the cold – just wrap up in a robe or towel and change for dinner. What happens to that towel? No problem! One lovely perk of mini-cations is that someone else picks up the towels, scrubs the tub, and makes the bed! As for local activities, most hotels are located near museums, movie-plexes, and theatres plus shopping – upscale, downscale, and everything in-between. (One clothing store was so upscale, all I could afford was a christening gown – and how often does a Jewish girl wear that?) As a mer-lady (without fish scales), I settled for a swim cap – for my next mini-cation! Creative Living: Give Yourself a Break: You may not have the time or cash for a major vacation, but a weekend, overnight, or day-cation treat can recharge your batteries and enlarge your point of view!   (Editor/Photographer: Jay Berman)

Susan (“Dr. Sue”) Horowitz, Ph.D.

Book: “Queens of Comedy” (Lucille Ball, Carol Burnett, Joan Rivers, Phyllis Diller, and more!) www.smashwords.com/books/view/219367 Musical: “SssWitch”: www.ssswitch.net  www.YouTube.com/drsuecomedian https://www.youtube.com/feed/my_videos  
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Dr. Sue Hope in the Hurricane Positive Entertainment

Extreme WeatherHurricane Sandy brought much suffering – but also many gifts and insights. Here are a few that I would like to share with you, my dear readers.
  • Cultivate positive relationships – they are the flowers in the garden of our lives.
o   The support of family, friends colleagues, neighbors, and all relationships is very important.  Being a professor gives my life a sense of purpose and community. o   Be kind and respectful to others and protect and take care of yourself.  Forgive others and yourself for mistakes. If you cannot forgive, keep some distance, but do not let your mind dwell on bitterness. Stay away from negative influences, and look for positive associations.
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Cultivate something that you love to do – give it value, and stay connected to your passions and interests. o   I love to sing, play piano, and write songs.  When I was isolated at home, I spent many hours every day at my piano singing and improving my songs. I also like painting, and I painted a thank you card for a friend. o   What do you love?  We all need interests and activities we enjoy. o   Learn to enjoy reading – you will not be dependent on electricity or outside entertainment if you have the companionship of a book or magazine – even by candle light.
  • Learn skills and knowledge – including languages, computer, and cell phone.  All skills are valuable – you never know when you need them.
o   My languages have helped me make friends across cultures. My cross-cultural friends supported me in my hours of need. o   My writing/communication skills have opened many doors for me.  I hope you will learn skills that give you opportunities in life. o   My only communication with the outside world (aside from my neighbors) was by cell phone.  To save my battery, I charged my cell phone via my computer (which I did not use), restricted my cell phone use to text and Emails (talking uses more battery power than text or email), and removed the battery when not in use (thanks to  the good advice of my brother).  By the last day, my computer battery was used up, and my cell phone was down to low power – but better low power than none!  Without some knowledge of computers and cell phones, I would have been stuck!
  • Be wise and be positive  – prepare for the worst, and focus on the best.
o   I stored water and food and used them frugally, and I carefully laid out a flashlight, candles, lighter (for my gas stove), and matches.  I cooked food in advance so it would not spoil, and rationed food so it would last.  I ate a stove top dinner by candle light with a glass of wine.  Maybe I couldn’t shower or flush the toilet, but I could still enjoy the comfort of food and feel elegant! o   I focused on what I had (not what was missing) and used my imagination – if Lincoln read by candle light, so could I.  I couldn’t go out because I did not want to climb 17 flights of stairs with a knee problem in the dark – uh-oh!  But that gave me the time to stay connected to music and art.
  • Keep faith
o   We all believe different things, and some of us are atheists.  Personally, I do not care or judge what people do or do not believe. But I do believe that it is important to have faith in something – whether it is traditional religion or a general sense of hope and gratitude.  When the light grew dim, and darkness and long night came into the sky, I played and sang the song “Amazing Grace” with the beautiful verse: “Through many dangers, toils, and snares, I have already come,  ‘twas grace that brought me safe thus far, and grace will lead me home.” The hurricane was hard in some ways, but it brought me wonderful gifts – I connected to the people I love, to my art, and to my faith. Please enjoy my song “Dare to Believe” You can download it free from my CD “Keys of Love” www.cdbaby.com/drsue I hope that you are well, safe, and happy.  Thank you for reading my blog.

Susan (“Dr. Sue”) Horowitz, Ph.D.

Book: “Queens of Comedy” (Lucille Ball, Carol Burnett, Joan Rivers, Phyllis Diller, and more!) www.smashwords.com/books/view/219367 Musical: “SssWitch”: www.ssswitch.net  www.YouTube.com/drsuecomedian https://www.youtube.com/feed/my_videos  
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Dr. Sue Conflict Resolution Positive Entertainment

Resolving Conflict Conflict seems to be part of nature and human life. Animals fight over turf and access to desirable mates. So do people. We fight for territory, mates, survival, dominance, and a host of other complex issues. Some disagreement seems to be inevitable, but how much we fight, how we fight, and how we resolve conflict have a major impact on our relationships, health, success, and happiness. If, like myself, you’re interested in living a happy, successful life with minimum conflict, here are a few suggestions. Prevention is easier than cure – to avoid conflict and stress –
  • Be slow to accuse. Allow for  misunderstanding, your own errors, and good intentions. Ask for clarification.
  • Phrase things in neutral ways. Saying that something is missing is less confrontational than accusing someone of taking it.  Saying you don’t understand the discrepancy between a C- exam and a A paper and asking for an explanation is less confrontational than accusing someone of plagiarism. (They can still redo the paper).
  • Avoid disrespectful, hurtful language. Words and phrases like “Shut up! ”  “Stupid!” curse words, ethnic/religious slurs, sexual slurs (like “slut” ), homophobic remarks, etc. escalate conflict and create bad feelings.
  • Cooperate with a reasonable request: Don’t defend or justify. Just do it.
  • Rudeness does not require a counter-attack. Try to set limits without escalating.
  • Useful phrases: “What do you think?” “How do you feel about…?” “I’m sorry.”
If you are already in a conflict situation, here are a few suggestions.
  • Vent safely: write it out, talk to someone you know you can trust – preferably not in your office or connected to the person you’re in conflict with.  If you’re a celebrity, be very careful about this.
  • Vent physically: Exhale sharply several times.  Then breathe deeply and slowly. Exercise. Walk around the block.
  • Do a CPA: How did I Create, Promote, or Allow this situation to occur.  Even if we think  the other person is 99% in the wrong, there is still that annoying 1%  🙂
  • Speak to the person in private or over the phone when it’s convenient – public accusations tend to escalate into fights.  Ask if this is a good time to talk.
  • Write a letter or Email – revise several times until you can do it without accusing. Writing gives you a chance to control your communication and keeps you at a distance. In-person communication is what you ultimately need for intimates – even if you email first.
  • Try to include at least some of the following in your communication.
  • Compliments – is there anything you like or admire about the person? Say it.
  • State the facts and state your feelings Keep your dignity. There’s no need to put up with disrespect or to lie – and no need to make negative generalizations about the other person’s character.
  • Make the other person at least partly right: A lot of conflict is about being right, so tell the other person where they are right and what you learned from them. Empathize with their situation.
  • Look for ways to agree /look for common goals and values. Don’t pretend to agree where you do not or promise to change behavior that you have no intention of changing – just focus on what you have in common.
  • Apologize where appropriate and where you can be truthful.  You can be sorry that you offended them  – even if it was unintentional.
  • Wish them well. Why not ? It costs you nothing, and makes you feel gracious.
If the other person continues to fight, you don’t have to. Stop emailing, get off the phone, walk away.  Give everybody a chance to cool off. Ask yourself: is this really worth fighting for? If the answer is yes – then go for it!  Don’t give up your own dreams or dignity to avoid conflict.  Conflict is not always bad – sometimes it’s the price we pay to live a full life. But if, in the grand scheme of things – and your life – it’s not really that important, ask yourself – would I rather be right or be happy? If you would rather be happy, then let it go- and enjoy your life!

Susan (“Dr. Sue”) Horowitz, Ph.D.

Book: “Queens of Comedy” (Lucille Ball, Carol Burnett, Joan Rivers, Phyllis Diller, and more!) www.smashwords.com/books/view/219367 Musical: “SssWitch”: www.ssswitch.net  www.YouTube.com/drsuecomedian https://www.youtube.com/feed/my_videos